Most of us wonder why the populations in the world who seem to have the greatest mobility and most material possessions are suffering from the yoke of despair and depression. As human beings we need to be both independent and interdependent.
We need to feel a sense of love and of contribution.
When you act according to the will of another person and suppress your own wishes, you have identified a part of yourself with the other person. If somebody says your effort was 'not good enough' or that you 'shouldn't have done that', then you start to question yourself.
You begin to introspect and ask, 'Is there something wrong with me? You may accept this false evaluation - perhaps because of the authority or dominance of the other person.
It is also very frequent in relationships where one partner adjusts to match the other's expectations. When our goals are suppressed by another - however well meant - it is eventually life destroying.
Negative evaluations (personal criticisms, opinions) by another especially at times of stress can cause extreme upset.
For example, in an emotionally invalidating home environment, a child who becomes frustrated and starts to cry may be told, “Stop acting like a baby! As the child matures and the emotional invalidation continues, he may try harder and harder to get his parents to respond to his feelings in positive ways.
Today's ruling undermines faith in our legal system and raises serious questions about circuit shopping."You can expect much more where that came from out of Trump and the White House today.
And, unlike some of his positions, Trump will likely get considerable backing from Republicans in Congress on this court ruling.
The first lessons are about finding yourself and becoming whole.
One of the factors that causes fragmentation of your identity - who you think and feel you are - is invalidation, which happens when you feel made wrong by another's comments or actions. One of the main ways this comes about is through invalidation, or 'making wrong'.