Ruth Houston - a cheated-on wife who exacted her revenge by writing a book called 'Is he Cheating?' and reinventing herself on TV as an infidelity expert both here and in the US - confirms: "studies show that only three per cent of the cheating husbands who divorce their wives marry their mistresses, and when they do these marriages have a very high failure rate - between 75 and 90 per cent."If he cheated with you, he's likely to cheat on you, because cheating is his way of dealing with marital problems.He could legitimately be going out with friends, but might call it a night early and meet up with a mistress.
Hair takes an hour to dry, and you'll have to spend that hour listening to Starla talk about her day, and if you wanted to be bored to tears hearing about a woman's day you'd be at home with your wife.
Historically the term has denoted a "kept woman", who was maintained in a comfortable (or even lavish) lifestyle by a wealthy man so that she would be available for his sexual pleasure.
Such a woman could move between the roles of a mistress and a courtesan depending on her situation and environment.
Rosetta, single again at 47, felt compelled to apologise publicly to Anneka.
"Tom used to tell me that Anneka was neurotic," she explains, "and that she tried to come between him and his children from his previous marriage."I got to the stage of wondering why he didn't leave Anneka sooner if she was so terrible. Now I know he's saying the same sort of thing about me."Some mistresses are satisfied with playing second fiddle to the wife - or realistic enough to know that the relationship wouldn't work any other way - but most, like Rosetta, live in hope that one day the situation will change and the man will be all theirs.